Just a Normal Ole Saturday

Ah, the weekend - that magical time when you can do all the nothing you've been dreaming about all week. But not for me. No, I had the distinct honor of receiving the golden ticket to hobnob with the philanthropic elite at a local shindig where they mix tunes with ponies for a good cause. That's right, a friend roped me into the glamorous world of fundraising for a music and equine therapy outfit. They're like the horse whisperers for kids in need, but with more tambourines.

And get this – it wasn't just a cozy gathering of do-gooders. I was amidst the company of eight of her proteges – these kids were so eager to volunteer, you'd think they were giving out free backstage passes to a TikTok convention. There we were, a merry band of charity musketeers, diving headfirst into a sea of activities. Who knew that trying to convince people to part with their cash could be more fun than a barrel of monkeys with a trust fund?

The moral of the story? Next time you think you're in for a snooze-fest of a weekend, just find yourself a friend with a penchant for equine therapy and a troop of enthusiastic mini-volunteers. It's the wild ride you never knew you needed!

I must admit, evenings like these are a balm for the soul. For those residing near Florida's Treasure Coast, I earnestly recommend visiting Harmony Hope Stables. It's a place deserving of attention and support. Amidst the stereotypes of Martin County's affluence and exclusivity, there lies a heartening counter-narrative.

During my time there, I was quietly moved by the display of pure altruism. From local business owners to families who not only utilize but genuinely rely on the facility's services, their generosity is a testament to the community's spirit. Moreover, the local college students there impressed me deeply with their maturity and eagerness to give back. These experiences serve as a humbling reminder that beneath the surface, there's a wealth of kindness and a commitment to service that binds us all.

Time Flies

Well here I am again. Wondering how months have flown by without even an attempt to post a blog. How in the world do people keep up with social media… like juggle multiple platforms like a pro, blog, work and find time to have a social life and oh yes, the ever important self-care?

So, I am going to give this blog another shot. Why torture myself, you ask? I could just say, why not? Because I have a tendancy to be an over-achiever or so I am told. The truth, I used to write all of the time and I have a project in mind, so I need to dust off the cobwebs.

No way, I am telling you about this new project because it is a totally for me project. I may or may not share if and when I complete it. We will just have to see how it goes and then how I feel about it in the end. Support would be appreciated…even though you don’t know the project you can still send support that I am just me and pull off something outside of the box and crazy. You know, being my own brand of happy, crazy and entertaining.

So what to brief you on and how, with so many months and miles between us. Hmmm, so let’s go with opportunities that came out of no where, goals I set and achieved and tease you with the fact that I have a major announcement coming soon. The “act” has already come to fruition and it includes more than just me and makes the community service, teacher, and person who doesn’t take NO for an answer so unbelievable proud and happy. Surprised…not at all because I believe that everything can be accomplished if enough effort and heart are put into it. And we did and will continue to do so. Intrigued…I hope so because it is something beyond my wildest imagination. That says a lot!

Those opportunities I mentioned, came in the form of being the subject matter expert (criminologist, victimologist…) on multiple shows and a bunch of episodes for new shows on Oxygen. Mark of a Killer, Charmed to Death and a new show previewing in January are under my belt. Guess what, I liked. No, I loved it. It is something I never imagined doing. I get to bring attention to my school (Indian River State College), get my students to engage in their criminal justice studies, and made a bunch of amazing contacts and friends along the way. A lot of those have spoken with, been interviewed by, offered jobs to and given lectures to my students. That is the best part of the whole thing.

I spoke again this year at CrimeCon, and was joined by my podcast co-host PCubed (Pierre.) We are joined each year by more students and alumni. Watching them network, while I do the same is so much fun. How does the saying go, “It is amazing what you can accomplish when you don’t care who gets the credit?” We encourage them and then watch them fly. That is the teacher in both me and Pierre - making an impression on others so that they believe in themselves and reach for the stars. And that is where they belong.

If you wondering why I haven’t mentioned the podcast that is because I have a “day job” as well. As a criminal justice professor, it has been a crazy ride, with ups and downs, changes and challenges thanks to Covid and quite a few other forces to deal with. But fear not, P’s eye rolling will be returning soon and I have researched myself up one side and down the other to bring you new cases, entertain you as well, annoy PCubed which is always a favorite and most importantly bring the victims to life as they are who we should truly focus on.

Hmmmm, so much to do still tonight, so off I run. I hope you are glad to hear from me and get back on track following me and encouraging me to continue trying new things and reach for my own stars.

Glad to be back!

Dr. M

Just a Normal Day

So what should I share with you today? Let’s see:

The Alpha Phi Sigma International Criminal Justice Honor Society, Pi Beta Iota Chapter at IRSC co-sponsored (formality) with the Clarke Advanced Learning Center’s National Honor Society to organize and participate in a one mile walk/run this past Saturday with all proceeds to support the Catch the Wave of Hope Organization, which yes is the same one my students attended a gala for last Saturday. This organization is to promote the education and many many other aspects, including treatment for victims of human trafficking. To find out more about or to support this organization please visit catchthewaveofhope.org. May is also mental health month so keep that in mind when looking for things do to people to support.

THESE STUDENTS ARE AMAZING!

I had a million errands to run which I did but accomplished absolutely nothing other than finding out what I will NOT be wearing for CrimeCon in June. House was cleaned, more of my gardens were tended to but there was probably more butterfly and bird watching going on than weed pulling and tree trimming. As you are learning this is my love, my sanity and my time to think and be creative.

Hmmm, this week starts the beginning of the first semester of the summer at Indian River State College so I had a bunch of classes to get prepared. Guess what???? DONE! I feel so ahead of the game and now I can focus the next couple of days exclusively on CrimeCon.

I am also getting reading for a local presentation at a new place…. for me anyway. True Crime and a Glass of Wine will make its first appearance in more than a year at Hop Life Brewing in Port St. Lucie on Thursday, May 20th. Looking forward to getting back out there and enjoying myself, meeting new people and having some fun.

Ok, this was just a quick catch up because now I have to get busy returning JMail…. some of these people need to chill. I can’t write them everyday let alone multiple times a day…. I have things to do because I didn’t do something to get myself stuck in a cell 23/1. Have I mentioned they are quite needy and demanding at times?

Enjoy your Monday, set a goal, get something accomplished but most of all do something to spend some time for yourself. Life is meant to be fun!

Chat soon~

Dr. M

Unbelievably Proud

If a professor is lucky one or two students will pass through his or her class during his or her career that they know will make them unbelievably proud and validate the choice of career. Trust me teaching is a job that no one goes into because of the paycheck. The hours are long because they continue way past the time one leaves the office, weekends are always interrupted and trying to be continually creative so that students stay engaged takes a lot of thought and time. Ask most of us, and we will tell you that it is a job that is worth all of this.

This past weekend is the perfect example for me and I want to share it with you. As most of you know, I am a criminal justice professor. Along with all of the other professional experiences I enjoy, one that I am honored to have been asked to participate in, is to serve on the Board of Directors of Catch the Wave of Hope. PLEASE PLEASE look them up. This organization believes in educating the public about the horrific crime of human trafficking, teaching our children how to be safe, trains law enforcement in noticing the red flags and then somehow also finds the time for the amazing Executive Director to provide treatment and find services for those who have fallen victim to those who would abuse them.

Where does the unbelievably proud come in???? Here ^ just look at the students who attended the Catch the Wave of Hope Gala (island theme) this past weekend. They are just a few of the criminal justice students that attend Indian River State College and are also members of the Pi Beta Iota Chapter of the International Criminal Justice Honor Society!!! What were you doing when you were their age?

These students and one alumnus came out to show support for not only the organization (CTWOH) but to also learn and bring back knowledge to their classmates, incorporate information into their course work and just in general bring awareness to the public that human trafficking exists even in “our” backyard.

These young adults represented the college, the honor society and me in a way that I think they deserve to be recognized for dealing with a topic that most adults don’t want to admit exist. They are true ambassadors and I couldn’t have been more proud to escort them to this event.

By the way, if you aren’t aware of it most college students are not wealthy and definitely did not choose the criminal justice career path to get any wealthier than I did when I decided to teach BUT do you know that these students not only bid and rebid and bid again on items to support the cause and even more to my amazement THEY WON!

Look at these faces because these are the faces of your future leaders and these are leaders that I, as well as the rest of the criminal justice department of Indian River State College will proudly stand behind and support them all the way to their own version of success.

To those of you that I am speaking about: THANK YOU for being YOU. For making us proud and showing your knowledge, understanding and support for a cause that needs much more attention!

Dr. M

Getting My Tail Busy

So this afternoon I had a meeting and we discussed what seemed like a million things: my focus, my laziness (workout what?), three upcoming presentations and all of the work that needs to go into those, seeking out a legitimate sponsor for my outside of the college professional career, teaching, grading, and the fact that I don’t have time to fool around. I need to get busy. Get moving or someone else may snag my opportunities and NO ONE is going to do any of my work, except clean my house windows for me!

So I got caught up on my blog as promised but NO I did not go to the gym. Had to come home and spend time with the husband…. that’s the excuse I am using today. I was told to make a list because I am under a time crunch for those presentations and YES I started those.

And I can’t tell you the rest of the things I started because they are cool and I don’t want anyone to snag them out from under me because I waited so long to get started.

By the way, this entire blog is being edited because just as much as I may have dropped a four letter word here or there so did my meeting partner. It was almost like hanging out and planning my life with PCubed; which if you keep up with any of my work you know that he rolls his eyes more than anyone I know, denies me almost anything cool and tells me who cares or get over it multiple times PER TOPIC! Seems I am a slow learner, hard headed or just don’t like being told what to do because what makes me get my tail busy on those things I don’t want to do???? A very direct approach….lol and sadly it works.

I am cutting this blog short as I have one that I should have posted before it and guess what, it has very little to do with me….. I want to tell you about what a group of my students or I should say, Indian River State College’s Alpha Phi Sigma Honor Society students did this weekend that made me unbelievably proud and not only should my bosses know but I want you to know.

So that is all for now…. back in a bit.

Dr. M

Lions and Tigers and Blogs....oh my

It’s funny how people seem to be voyeuristic and love to see, hear or watch what is going on in the lives of others. I can say at one point in time, I am sure I was just as guilty…. that was until I decided to share my life and then I realized that it isn’t always so fun. You DON’T get to choose what you share….or do you?!?

I have gained and lost followers, family and friends over my choices but you know what, that’s ok? People misinterpret what you put out there and sometimes feelings get hurt or egos get inflated. I love my birds, butterflies, sunrises, walks on the beach and the amazing backyard gardens I am building. Some people enjoy those things and don’t realize that just as much as I love them, I also need them to keep the drama of my professional life as well as other things at bay.

That’s ok if you delete me because I am not true crime all of the time. If I was I would be a pretty damn boring person. So I can enjoy the learning and sharing of serial killers, even more so, telling you about the lives and loves of those we have lost to them and then go on to enjoy my shishito peppers and the smell of multiple types of lavender.

I would be boring if I only shared one part of me. So with that, I will keep this one really short:

I LOVE:

my students

the college I teach at, Indian River State College

learning about why I still remember the bunny I ran over when I was 18 while others hurt people without thought

I enjoy sunrises even though I am NOT the best morning person

I read books that most people would never even consider touching, philosophy, history of mankind and so on

I would go to college forever if my husband and friends would let me

Learning and homework come easy to me but understanding the horrors of life are a mystery

I am writing and will publish this year

I take more photographs than any one person should

But the best part of me…. don’t judge this book by the cover. You don’t know if it is the cover that truly belongs on this book. So follow me as I run, jump, stumble and enjoy my way through life. Who knows not only might you learn something real about me but also about yourself. Life is an adventure; enjoy it!

Dr. M